3 Things that will make a big difference in your marriage

Marriages—whether brand new or decades old—face seasons of joy, seasons of challenge, and sometimes seasons that feel like a storm that won’t let up. While my husband and I are still navigating a lot of the growing pains of a Godly marriage, there are some lessons that we have learned quickly. It truly doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together—new pressures, unexpected life events, and spiritual attacks will always try to wedge themselves between you and your spouse.

One of the most beautiful things about believing in Jesus is the fact that you will always have Support. No battle that you face is faced alone. When you’re bound in marriage, you always have another person other than Jesus who cares and loves you. And here’s the really good news: you don’t have to let those challenges pull you apart. With intentional effort and a Christ-centered focus, your marriage can not only endure hard times but grow stronger through them.

Here are three practical, heart-shaping habits you can weave into your marriage starting today!

Worship together

Of all the tips I could give you, this is the most important. Worshiping the Lord together unites your hearts in a way nothing else can. It’s important that you both depend on the Lord in every aspect of your marriage. Your marriage is not just a legal agreement—it’s a covenant before God. That means your relationship is more than emotional connection or shared responsibility; it’s a spiritual union with a divine purpose.

When you worship together, you are:

Strengthening your shared faith

Just as attending church and joining in corporate worship is vital for your personal walk with Christ, shared worship with your spouse is essential for the health of your marriage. God should be the steady backbone of your relationship—the One who holds you together when life feels unsteady.

Your union wasn’t an accident. The Lord intentionally brought you together. That’s why it’s so important to honor Him not just individually, but as a couple. Worshiping together is a way of saying, “This marriage belongs to You, Lord.”

When you make shared faith a priority, you also give each other the gift of accountability. In seasons when one of you feels spiritually weary or distracted, the other can gently guide you back, offering encouragement, truth, and a steady hand to keep your hearts grounded in God’s Word.

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

Reminding each other of your ultimate mission as a couple

God brought you together for a purpose—one that goes beyond simply sharing a life and a home. Your marriage is a partnership designed to further His Word, whether that’s through mission work, serving your community, investing in your church, or discipling your children. These aren’t just “good things to do”—they’re opportunities to discover the unique calling God has placed on your union.

Your spouse often sees strengths in you that you can’t see in yourself. They can encourage you to step into roles you might shy away from, and gently push you beyond your comfort zone so you can grow into the person God has called you to be.

Inviting God into every corner of your relationship

Thank God daily for the gift of your marriage, and invite Him to shape every part of it. Ask Him to reveal areas where you both can grow, and to guide you in the direction He wants your relationship to go.

Practical ways to worship together:

Pray together in the morning or before you leave the house

Make prayer a regular, intentional part of your life together. Pray for each other, pray together, and seek His wisdom for every decision you face. As you do, establish healthy, Biblical boundaries that protect and strengthen your relationship, keeping Christ at the center.

Read a chapter of the Bible out loud before bed or use a dedevotional

Staying rooted in God’s Word is one of the most powerful ways to nurture a joyful, Christ-centered home. Make time to read Scripture together—not just to grow in your own understanding, but to help strengthen each other’s faith. Share summaries, reflections, or personal takeaways from what you’ve read so you can see the passage through one another’s eyes.

This practice not only deepens your connection to God, but also encourages your husband in his role as the spiritual leader of your household, allowing him to guide your family with wisdom and grace.

Attend church and serve in ministry side by side

Remember, you and your spouse are a team for God—partners in building His kingdom. Get involved in your local church together, serving side-by-side and finding ways to bless your community. Worshiping as a couple isn’t about presenting a perfect image; it’s about making God the steady anchor of your marriage, the one who holds you together through every season.

Spend intentional time together

Life is busy. Between work, kids, chores, and endless to-do lists, it’s easy to become “married roommates.” Don’t let each other fall into mundane routines. Thriving marriages are built on friendship. A couple that laughs together, talks openly, and genuinely enjoys each other’s company will find it easier to weather hard seasons.

Find activities you both love—even if they’re small or silly—and make them part of your regular rhythm.

Ideas for quality time:

• Try cooking a new recipe together
• Grab your laptops and plan goals together at a coffee shop
• Play a video game you both enjoy
• Take evening walks and leave your phones at home
• Join a Bible study group as a couple

The key is to be present. You don’t have to spend a lot of money—what matters is that you’re connecting intentionally. For example, my husband and I enjoy coffee shop dates. It is beneficial for us because I get to plan for the week and work on the blog while he gets to play games. We’re together doing things that each of us enjoy while still being together. A gentle reminder that to spend quality time together, you don’t always have to be doing the same thing.

Work for each other

A strong marriage is built on selflessness. When you serve each other daily, you create a home environment filled with love and grace rather than resentment. Think of the moments when you really felt loved by your spouse. If you’re anything like me, I always think about when I come home and discover that my husband has been working on our chores while I was driving home from work.

Think of small, sacrificial acts that make your spouse’s life easier, even if they go unnoticed. These quiet acts of love say, “I see you, and I care for you.”

Ways to serve your spouse:

• Take care of the chore they dread
• Make their favorite meal
• Organize something they’ve been meaning to get to
• Put their keys where they can find them
• Spend time in prayer for their needs and dreams

When you choose to put your spouse’s needs before your own, you reflect the sacrificial love Christ has for His church.

Final encouragement

Now, you really can ‘t change everything for the better on your own. You can make steps, but ultimately you need to depend on God to actively make a difference in your relationship. Marriage was never meant to be navigated in your own strength—it’s a partnership designed to flourish under God’s guidance. If you make worship, intentional connection, and sacrificial love regular habits in your relationship, you’ll find that even in hard times, your marriage will be anchored in joy, trust, and peace.

Small daily acts can lead to deep, lasting transformation. Start today—and watch how God works in your relationship.